With those words Naomi Tutu, during a visit to Knoxville last month, started a conversation that lasted deep into the night for some of us who attended her luncheon speech. And nearly a month later, those conversations continue when we see one another in meetings, at drinks or over meals.
Naomi Tutu is the middle child of Nobel Peace Prize winner Archbishop Desmond Tutu, famous for his fight against apartheid in South Africa. She was in Knoxville as the guest of Pellissippi State Technical Community College as part of their program to “internationalize” the school. She spoke to about 40 faculty members and students following a small luncheon with about a dozen community leaders.
“I don’t think of you as black.” Naomi Tutu said she has heard that phrase spoken to herself or to others her entire life. Even her close friend and book collaborator of 10 years said it to her. It was not meant as an insult. But it was one.
“I know I’m a black woman and I’m proud of being a black woman,” Tutu said. “It’s part of my identity. When you say you don’t think of me as black, you are taking away a part of my identity in order to accept me.”
The audience, a racially mixed group at Pellissippi’s Magnolia Avenue campus, sat in rapt attention as Tutu explained how the races are characterized in South Africa where she grew up. There are whites; Asians, who in South Africa are identified as people from the Indian subcontinent; coloreds, who are people of mixed ancestry; and Africans, the indigenous people. “In Africa, we have a split personality,” she said. “We are very proud to be the indigenous people of South Africa. The word for African is the same as the word for people. But we also have the learned culture of apartheid: we think it is less bad to be lighter.” Thus, she said, the popularity of skin lightening creams and hair straighteners.
Tutu has given this a lot of thought. Here’s what she’s come up with: “It’s the global experience that we want to put the bad qualities on ‘the other’,” she said. “We want our own community to be the people of valor, and noble people and people of wisdom. It is how we organize.”
Thus, this odd experience Tutu has had on her world travels. While white merchants in South Africa look down on black Africans, they consider African Americans to be “honorary whites.” She has heard them tell visiting African Americans, “You’re not like OUR blacks.” Conversely, she has noticed that when she is in Berea, Ken., where she has taught, the merchants in that community treat her better than they do local African Americans. “You are not like OUR blacks,” she has been told.
What makes her the maddest and most frustrated of all, though, is another presumably well-meaning statement she often hears: “I don’t see differences; I only see people.”
“I want to take them to my mother’s garden and say, ‘Look at these beautiful eggplants and tomatoes and squashes and peppers! You don’t notice any difference?’”
Diversity, Tutu said, is good. Diversity is healthy. Rather than causing hatred and oppression and dehumanization, diversity offers strength and beauty and the opportunity for humanity to share different gifts.
- Have the difficult conversations;
- Talk about race and racism;
- Start healing our communities and our world by facing the hurts and by facing the guilts.